Mobbing is most often violence in white gloves – that’s why it is so difficult to identify and deal with.

It is most often a form of psychological violence, psychological terror, emotional manipulation, although it can also be physical, also with sexual overtones. It is characterized, for example, by harassment, insults, name-calling, ridicule, humiliation, isolation, disregard. Often, a person subject to mobbing for a long time does not even notice that he lives in a large entanglement. She notices discomfort, something does not suit her, but she can not quite define what it is, it is difficult for her to grasp. Over time, the well-being begins to deteriorate, somatic symptoms are added: headache, stomach pain, difficulty sleeping. And although such people feel reluctant to go to work, have low self-esteem, they do not always associate it with what is happening at work.

Mobbing is harmful. Certainly, both short-term and long-term effects can be said. Short-term is the emerging sense of guilt, increased feeling of irritation, anger, depression, apathy, discouragement, helplessness, lowering self-esteem, self-confidence, awareness of one’s competences.

Long-term are loss of motivation to work, depressed mood, concentration disorders, difficulties in expressing their thoughts, memory difficulties, addictions (reaching for alcohol, drugs, drugs), undertaking risky and addictive behaviors, sleep disorders, eating disorders, chronic headaches, burnout, anxiety disorders, neuroses, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, and even suicidal thoughts and attempts.

Psychological harassment can also cause physical symptoms such asabdominal discomfort, upset stomach, headaches, trouble sleeping. Often, before a mobbed person goes to a psychologist, psychotherapist, he first visits other specialists in search of the cause of his ailments. Studies from top to bottom show nothing, because it all takes place at the level of the head, but if we do nothing about it, the body gives us less subtle signals that something is wrong and it needs to be addressed.

To defend yourself against mobbing, it is worthknowing yourself, your strengths, your resources and know your not so much weaknesses as areas to work. Let’s not judge ourselves, but rather check what I can do with it, what skills I have to deal with it. It is good to surround yourself with positive, sympathetic people, have passions and interests. This gives us the feeling that our world is not only the one area that provides us with difficult situations and unpleasant emotions, but that we have something else that gives us energy and a chance to feel better, to relieve unpleasant emotions.

Andwhen giving a new job, let’s pay attention not to get entangled in some strange arrangements. Let’s take care of a stable self-esteem in advance, and this is influenced by many factors: people who surround us, openness, different experiences, willingness to talk to others. Let’s learn not to be upset, to set boundaries, to be assertive. Of course it’s hard! In addition, most often it is very complex, because on the one hand we have the need to earn money to make a living from something, secondly, the work itself can simply be liked by us, thirdly we experience something unpleasant. It is good to talk to people, talk about what we experience, inform about what is happening, to know that what I am doing is ok, so as not to start questioning my skills and competences.

Let’s also remember that we set the boundaries, and people will do as much as we let them.

The behavior of the abuser is largely due to his beliefs, patterns learned at home, personality. People who use violence very often attack out of fear, in connection with their low self-esteem, complexes. Most often it attacks someone who is insecure himself, who is jealous, who – quite often – has just incorrect patterns, difficulties in dealing with tension, anger, personality with the characteristics of a sociopath / psychopath. It seems to him that he can use violence because he has power, he uses the imbalance of roles, and sometimes just the weakness of the other person. Often there are some personality disorders, narcissistic personality.

Source: PAP MediaRoom

Source: https://www.seka.pl/mobbing-przemoc-w-bialych-rekawiczkach/

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