Even when we value the atmosphere of our workplace very much and we work great with the team, it is difficult to feel completely at ease if we have a poor relationship with the boss. It happens that the mere appearance of the superior makes us feel nervous, stress appears and we don’t want to do anything.

For many of us, the atmosphere in the workplace is almost crucial. Due to the fact that we spend so much time in it, we want to minimize stress as much as possible, which not only has a negative effect on our productivity or focus, but also makes our whole body suffer. A good atmosphere is certainly one of the motivating factors for employees.

Even if the working conditions are great, we get along perfectly with our colleagues, we can’t really complain about anything, the mere thought that the boss doesn’t like us can be a reason for nervousness and stress and something that will stop us in our actions.

However, the fact that we have a poor relationship with the boss does not necessarily mean that we have to resign immediately. Perhaps they can be fixed, especially if we like our work.

If we feel more and more often that we have a poor relationship with the boss and it negatively affects our work or well-being, it is worth analyzing this situation carefully. First of all, let’s think about why we think that the superior does not like us at all? Is it his behavior or how he assigns us tasks?

Although the signals should not be ignored, let’s find out whether it is really reluctance or whether we overinterpret something. It may happen that the boss will tell us: „The deadline for this report is Tuesday”, and in our head it will sound like: „If you don’t do it by Tuesday, we will all suffer the consequences, you must do it or I will fire you.” It is not impossible to misread someone’s intentions.

So let’s look at this relationship. Let’s gently ask other co-workers what they think about the behavior of the boss. Let’s also consider whether we are not doing something that may arouse reluctance.

It happens that a poor relationship with the boss results in the fact that we don’t get any serious, demanding tasks, we get everything that is easy and that can’t be spoiled. As if the superior did not trust our competences – he thought that simple tasks would not cause us any problems, but he is afraid to tell us something that is really important.

We are only human, our characters are different and conflicts can also arise from such incompatibility. Perhaps we are very loud, energetic, like to talk a lot, and the boss is very calm and specific – or vice versa? It is worth looking at the behavior of both sides.

Conflicts can also result from misunderstanding. Something that is obvious to us may not be the same for the other party – especially when we work in a multi-generational company. Today, we have as many as four generations on the labor market, which often perform their duties differently, but that does not mean that they are worse.

The problem may arise, for example, when an employee much younger than the boss treats him almost like a parent who will help and direct in any situation. Conflict and poor relations with the boss can also occur when the supervisor is younger. It can be difficult for an older person who can’t quite cope with the fact that someone who could be her child is „ruling her”.

The supervisor’s reluctance can be tiring and discouraging, but we don’t always want to quit our job right away. As we have already mentioned, it often happens that we really like our position and the company, and the only stressful factor is a poor relationship with the boss. What can we do to deal with them?

First of all, after looking at this relationship and finding the cause, let’s consider whether we can take some steps right away to change something. If the boss loves specifics, and we usually strive for the essence for a long time, it is worth constructing our statements in such a way that the superior is satisfied as much as possible.

If we feel that the boss does not trust our competence, let’s show him that we really try and know what we are doing. Let’s perform all tasks as well as possible, show initiative, help others in solving problems and show that you can count on us.

A step to change the attitude can be a conversation, preferably face-to-face, in which we share our doubts with the boss. The point is not to complain, but to present specific arguments that we want to change something, we know how to do it and that we want to repair our relations.

Instead of telling everyone around that the boss is after us, let’s try to take matters into our own hands and try to fix what’s broken. Of course, it happens that nothing can overcome reluctance and we will be forced to think about changing jobs – after all, in a place where relations with the boss are poor, we have less chance for development or promotion. However, before we make the final decision, let’s see if we can’t handle it ourselves.

Sourcewow:https://poradnikpracownika.pl/-kiepskie-relacje-z-szefem-czy-mozemy-im-zaradzic

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